Hii angels ! I wanted to create this personally for me, and for all of you. 2020 was difficult, and moving on from that can require some major self reflection & work. Hereās how Iāll be working on myself & how you can too. š
Your Style/Aesthetic šø
Your style & aesthetic is important to YOU itās how you go about buying yourself things, how you look at life, and what makes you unique ! Since 2021 is a new year, you may want to look into different styles & aesthetics that feel more fresh.
How to find your own (new) aesthetic and style :
Create lookbooks in your journal or pinterest.
Hereās an example of something I made :
When you find yourself ādrawnā to a certain piece of clothing, know thatās what youāre interested in ! Take note of it.
Go through your wardrobe & sell things that just arenāt your style anymore. After this you can use that money to buy clothes according to your potential new style.
Write down an āessentialsā list of all the pieces you KNOW you need. For example :
Plain ribbed crop top in white, black, and pink.
Knowing what colors you want in your wardrobe is very important. Like before, choose what youāre drawn to. Hereās some prissy girl essentials by @dreamgrlarchive
If youāre into this blogās style, or the āpink & pretty glamā style then check out this bratz style guide by @dreamgrlarchive š
Your Mental Health šø
I created a diagram for you to know what should & shouldnāt occupy your mind ! Thatās you in the middle. Hereās what each thing represents :
What SHOULD be occupying your mind :
Nails - Taking care of yourself & participating in self care !
Water & Strawberries - Your health. Eating good and keeping yourself hydrated. Keep that in your mind ALWAYS.
Diary - Your journey as YOU. What are your current goals ? What makes you happy ? You should be writing this down somewhere. Either in your journal or phone.
Youtube - Watching positive people who inspire & motivate you.
What SHOULDNāT be occupying your mind :
Boys - Dudes who DONāT respect you & that waste your time, energy, and emotions.
Instagram - Social media influencers who cause you to compare yourself to them, toxic mutuals, and people youdonāt like.
Clock - The past, donāt focus on the negative things in your past. When I say this I mean, donāt dwell on it. Journaling is a different story.
Mean girls - This just represents mean people in general, if someone doesnāt like you or says spiteful things about you, thatās not your problem. Itās theirās ! Forgive them and remain UNBOTHERED !
Try to re-program you brain to think like this ! Itāll protect your peace & happiness š.
Your Routines & Schedules šø
Your routines and schedules keep you accountable & on track. Creating a new routine for yourself can change your whole outlook on life !
Things to create / work on / fix :
Your sleeping schedule
Your workout routine
Morning + night skincare routine
Sunday reset ( laundry, cleaning your space, nail fill )
Affirmations / manifesting
How to go about these things :
Your sleeping schedule - Move your phone away from your bed. Keep yourself occupied ALL day until you go to sleep. ( so youāre not full of energy when you go to sleep )
Sunday reset - Create a cleaning routine for your space and do this every sunday. Also a spa/nail routine can be added. My cleaning routine post is here
Affirmations / manifesting - If youāre interested in this, I recommend getting a journal dedicated to it. Find a good set of affirmations, write them, then read them out loud whenever you want. As for manifesting, you can read this post by @mulabby
Always remember to treat yourself like a princess !
The way you carry & take care of yourself is very important. You want to be respected and valued, you deserve it ! Acting a sophisticated way is important, but controlling who you give your energy to is just as important.
Things that help you show confidence :
Good posture
Eye contact
Acknowledging the other personās statements/body language
Important selfcare tips for going out/presenting yourself to the public :
Wearing your staple perfume/mist
Brushed teeth, with a mint or gum
Wearing clean, wrinkle free, clothing that compliments your body
Wearing a mask lol
( I do this even if Iām inside )
Self care habits that donāt involve products :
Reading affirmations to yourself
Journaling good and bad things everyday ( self reflection )
Staying hydrated
Your behavior
Donāt talk down or bad about others. Even if they do you wrong, keeping your thoughts to yourself and journaling them can save a lot of trouble, misconception, and self sabotage.
Just because youāre kind and respectful, doesnāt mean you have to be friendly and approachable. For jobs, yes thatās important obv, but when youāre out and about you have no obligation to feel otherās insecure, jealous energy.
Thereās three main things to make sure your behavior and atitude is healthy :
*disclaimer: this applies to people youāre looking into becoming friends/aquatinted with*
Respect. Respect other peopleās boundaries, choices, and journey. Itās not cute to be a toxic āidgaf about youā person. Treat people how you would like to be treated.
Kindness. Dont judge others by their looks, if someone is a genuine person asking you something or coming to you for guidance, even if youāre declining, still be kind.
Understanding. Being understanding of someone elseās position & feeling empathy for others. This goes back to treating others the way you would like to be treated. Empathy is very important in every friendship, you want to comfort them & be involved with their ups and downs, it creates a stronger bond.
Be careful with who youāre involving yourself with ! If you get an off feeling, take a step back and remind yourself of your boundaries. š
I hope you enjoyed this post, I wanted to make lil collages n stuff. Lmk if you need help with anything else, my inbox is open. Mwah. š
